February 2010
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You Won't Miss Something Til Its Gone
I just met this guy and he is so cool. I met all of his friends and even his mom. He tells me that he likes me and that’s cool because I like him, too. The only problem is like one minute he’ll say something about how much he misses his ex-girlfriend, and then the next minute he’ll say something about us being together. I just don’t know what to do. Should I say good-bye...
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BFF's or What?
My best friend and I just recently went out on what he called “our first real date.” It wasn’t anything big, just dancing and stuff, but afterwards a mutual friend of ours said that he had this huge crush on me. Until that time I had no clue that he liked me. He’s really nice, but I’m afraid if we date it will ruin our friendship. I’m not physically attracted to...
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rawmess:
Being totally confident, secure, and in love with yourself is the biggest challenge in life, but gives the most rewards.
I'm Not A Complicated Girlfriend. →
neko4gotherpotato:
I don’t expect you to text me 24/7. I don’t expect you to call me everyday. I don’t expect you to put me in front of your boys. I don’t expect you to ditch all your girl best friends for me. I don’t expect you to surprise me with roses. I don’t expect you to buy me the world on my birthday. I don’t expect you to always agree with what I say. I don’t expect you to pay for...
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formspring.me
I love my boyfriend a lot, but this guy friend who caused me a lot of pain, recently told me he loved me and wants to be with me. I don’t know what to do.
He caused you a lot of pain, but you want to be with him anyway? That’s obviously the first sign, you’re fuckin crazy! I’m not even going to justify this for you. If you want to be in that pain again,...
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formspring.me
Why did my EX get so mad at me when I unfriended him from Facebook? He broke up with me on Christmas. He sent me a mean email calling me a pathetic jerk looking for attention. I told him it’s best if we don’t contact either other for a while.
You did the right thing, baby. He’s a jerk and obviously hurt that you’re moving on without as much as a single...
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Actions Speak Louder Than Bitching
I have never felt so alone before. Well, I’m sure I have, but I just hate this feeling. I have been kicked out of both of my houses, I’m not allowed at my apartment with my roommates because my dad doesn’t like them, and he has told the cops to be on the lookout for me. I’m currently living at my friend’s house until I leave for Texas to finish off my last year of...
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Don't Lose Sight Of Your Values, Ladies
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months. Things were going well until a family member of mine died. I needed his support and what I got was him running away. He said that I needed more than he could give right now and that he was going through a lot of stuff as well and didn’t think he could handle “us” right now. He decided that he didn’t want a relationship, but...
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Love Knows No Gender
Hi guys. Um, I’m gay. I found that out when I was 10, and I’ve been attracted to men for the past 8 years. Nope, nope, I’ve never made love to another man before, but they just turn me on. Now here’s the situation. I have this girl-friend of mine. She’s really nice and cute. We’ve been best buds for like a year now. But now, I’m begining to really like...
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Don't Put A Ring On It!
My dad thinks I am too young to date.I am 14 years old and have never dated before. He won’t even let me text the guy I like. He took my phone away. For my 14 birthday this other guy gave me a ring. My dad said it was inappropriate for a guy to give a girl jewelry (a ring).Now the guy I really like thinks I am mad at him but I am not! Is my dad over reacting or am I?
Whoa, a ring?...
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Silly Cling-ons!
okay this is going to sound bad but i need all your help. i met this guy about two months ago and i met him through my best friend at the time whom was sorda dating him. we became good friends and got drunk and well we slept together. i felt horrible. i finally told my friend and i ended up losing her but him and i really started to care about one another let me first mention he is wiccan and...
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The Deadline For Dating
I lost my husband of 21 years in Dec. 2005. I miss the warm contact, hugs, kisses, not necessarily the sex. There is a man that I have known for the past 10 years that I think likes me. He always goes out of his way to say “hi” and chat a few minutes. He asked me to a picnic saying I need to get out of the house and I went and enjoyed myself. He was a gentleman. His friends and...
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Age versus Smarts
I’m 15 years old, And Already attending college. I have always been ahead of people my age intellectually. So I never had many friends. Or gone on many dates. Guys just don’t like smart girls. They like someone that makes them feel smart. Well here is the thing, Now that I’m in college I’m around people more my level. But I can’t date guys here. They are all...
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You Gotta be Confident, Secure, and In Love...With...
As a child I was always insecure with the way I looked. I was naturally underweight and was made fun of very often, especially through those awful ‘middleschool’ years lol. Called names like anorexic, bulemic, toothpick, stick, gross, bony…just stuff that does a great job of tearing someone’s self-esteem apart. I also use to be EXTREMELY shy - I had my close small...
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You Gotta Play Dirty When Playing With Girls
this guy i sorda have had a thing for is sorda friends with one of my friends and like most girls i talk to her about him. well i finally got up enough nerve to write him and tell him i liked him ( i know so third grade but i’m shy). and he wrote me back and said he wanted to date me-but he already asked my friend to prom lets call her jane. he asked me not to be mad. i will admit i am...
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Tell Me When To Go
My ex boyfriend and I are still friends after going out twice before. My friends tell me if our relationships didn’t work out the first two times, then why try again for a third time? I think I still love him, but I’m not sure. I love being around him and he is nice to talk to, but I’m pretty sure he doesn’t like me anymore. I don’t want to ruin our friendship by...
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Early Bird Gets the Man
a couple days ago i kissed a guy friend of mine(todd) by accident. i know now that it shouldnt have happened. i liked some other guy but that didnt work out very good and im trying to get over him, and todd was just there and we drank a bit,so it happened. the thing is now i think i have feelings for todd but im not exactly sure id want to date him or whatever. and also, hes avoiding me now....
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Bitch Slap You're Way To The Top
ok, so i just made this new friend rite?? at first she seemed really cool and we always have a great time together, and we share a mutual friend. but now for no reason AT ALL, she just talks to that friend now, and everyones SINGLE WORD that comes out of her mouth about me is an insult!! i know if my other friend says the exact same thing, she would probably just laugh. but me?? nope....
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Real Decisions Are Always Tough
My mom and I are super close. My dad died when I was little, so it’s just been the two of us for most of my life. I’m 14 now, and I’ve started to date boys at school. We just hang out after school or go to the mall. Still, I’m worried that my mom will get mad, so I haven’t told her. I’ve heard her on the phone telling her friends that I’m more mature than most girls my age, and that I’m focused on...
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Sorry Ain't Gonna Cut It
Let me just start out by saying that me and my boyfriend have only been going out for a short time, but have known each other for a long time. I asked him Thursday if he wanted to go to a movie and he said okay, so that was my plan for Saturday. So Saturday comes around and I go up to the movies and call him to see where he is. Well, he says he can’t make it. Yet I hear his friends in the...
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Sweet And Slow
I know that this sounds kind of funny, but I’ve been burned to many times by guys who I thought cared, but in the end just burned me. I know you may not think that it’s so bad, but I found this really cool guy and I really like him, but I’m afraid of getting hurt, so I don’t want to get intamate. Don’t worry I’m not going to have sex with him or anything,...
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To All My Lovely Ladies,
I feel the need to go over this after a few of the past emails. I’ve been in the down and out and have been used by a few “good” men, but you live and learn, right? You take the good and grow from the bad and move on before shit hits the fan. I haven’t been doing this advice shit for long, but I know this. - We need to love ourselves as women. I can’t stress how...
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Booty On Speed Dial
I really like this guy Quan. And I tried to get with him and he didn’t want to commit but he wanted to get with me. I’m going to an all girls school next year. Quan is going to a coed school. I know if I was going with him he would probably cheat. But I still want him. Should I ask him out again and does that make me desperate?
No, not desperate, but definitely stupid. You’re...
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The Trouble With College Boys
I’m 16 and am having trouble with my ex. We went out for a month and a week. I liked him a lot but realized he is rather immature and does silly things. He nearly got himself and his best friend kicked out of college. I decided it was the best thing for us to break up. We broke up a couple of weeks ago and now we’re really good friends. The problem is, we kissed last week and...
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Best Friends On A Budget
My best friend tries to be perfect and like she’s all mature and everything and tries to be all cool and stuff like changing her personality to please everyone else and without realizing it she says little things that put me down. She also acts like if something’s not her style, then it shouldn’t exist. Like most of the tv shows I like and some other stuff. All she does is...
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The BFF Lunch Special
Last semester my best friend and I were in the same elective. We both had a lot of fun but now a new semester is coming. This time around my best friend and I are in different electives. She has already asked me to switch electives to be in the same one as she is. I kinda want to switch electives so we could be in the same class. If I don’t switch electives I’d only see my best...
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Boys and Sex
All the guys I know are either younger than me or stuck up or all they talk about is sex! all the guys i’ve ever liked had girlfriends or that had personality types that I think I would be compatable with moved to out of state colleges after high school and my friends don’t know any guys that they think i’d like to be set up with. i’m 19 and i’ve never had a...
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Use Your Words
i am getting so frustrated with my bf…..like, when i am feeling down or i don’t seem happy, he always asks me what’s wrong and won’t stop until i tell him. that’s really sweet of him and that’s one of his endearing qualities. but whenever he feels down or whatever and i ask him, he never tells me….instead, he walks around completely bummed and we...
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No Number Twos
I like this guy. He’s like my best friend. He has a girlfriend. She doesn’t like me and the feeling is mutual! I am told that he brings me up alot and talks about me a lot and now it is getting to the point where she brings me up and starts talking about me all the time. Anyway, the guy I like called me this summer and we talked about how he wanted to break up with her...
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Don't Settle For Less
A few weeks ago I met this boy and he was interested in me and I was interested in him too.He’s friends with a few of my friends, so we were all hanging out a lot. I was stoked because I was told he wanted to ask me out, I’m 17 and I’ve never been in a relationship- so I thought everything was going to be great. Well we started hanging out alone and I realized I really...
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Respect - Just A Little Bit
my best friend told me there was this guy that she liked as a friend, but she would never date. we’re 19. the guy is 21. my other friend is 16. my best friend even told my other friend that she was not interested in the guy even though she liked him as a friend, but when we went to say hi to him she acted really standoffish she also makes up a bunch of lies about herself. when we were...
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Long Distance Trust
My boyfriend is spending more time with a girl I know from back home more and more now that I am three hours away and in college. Everytime I call a friend of mine from home, he tells me about it. I am getting so sick and tired of having to worry about my boyfriend possibly cheating on me. I know that the girl he spend time with likes him and I don’t trust her. What do I do?
Oh,...
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Attention, Greedy Bitches!
I need advice badly. I have this so-called “friend” and she really likes this guy. He knows it but doesn’t feel the same way and only likes her as a friend. He really does like me though and wants to go out with me. My “friend” knows this and gets mad every time we talk or he flirts with me. I don’t know what to do!!! Should I say “yes”? If she was a...
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Underage Affairs
Something completely weird happened. Well last summer my family and I went to North Carolina to visit some friends. There is this guy, he is 23 and he has a girlfriend. I’m 14 and he told me he’s inlove with me! I don’t like him at all I mean I barely know him and I don’t remember really talking to him. He also saw me in a bikini when we all went to the beach. The point is,...
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Silly Little Skanks
I started working last year an I made heaps of new friends — one in particular. He’s 18 and I just turned 15. We started of as friends and about a month in he asked me out, I made excuses so I didn’t have to go out with him. Well we’ve been hanging out and once again he asked me out. I made up excuses again. You see, I really like him but don’t want to do out with...
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What Happens in Vegas...
My girlfriend and myself have been dating for two years now. I went to Vegas and my friend called me and asked me where I was. I told him I was in Vegas still. He told me to call her because she is with another guy. Well I called her and she was. I asked her what she was doing she said she was confused. When I got back she said she missed the little things I used to do for her like roses at work...
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Your Loss
A guy and I hooked up about a month and a half ago. We had wonderful sex and all. We saw and talked to each other for about a week and a half, then we had sex again. About 2 days ago he said he might want me to be his “woman.” I just laughed and now he is avoiding me. Why? Is it because he got what he wanted or because he thinks I blew him off by laughing at his question. I tried...
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The Trick With Strict Parents
My parents are okay at times. Especially my mom, but my dad is super strict and a pastor. So on Saturday, I told my parents I wanted to act and be an actress. My mom would let me do it but my dad said “No!!” He said he doesn’t want me to be an actress, but he said he will support any decision I make. But really he won’t. He just says that to make me feel better. And since...
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Play the Players
I recently met the most amazing man. We got along great (exciting careers, no children, similar interests). He is 37 and I am 42. The chemistry was stunning. On our second date, he confided in me that he hadn’t felt this amazing in a long time. On our third date, we were intimate. Now, two weeks later, no phone call. He admitted to me that he had a site on myspace, and I have obsessive been...
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Be Proactive or Shut Up
I am a 35 year-old male who has been wrestling with some very serious issues within my life. However, those issues I have resolved for myself. Yet, the very same issues are not resolved within society. I feel like the world is against me and my wife. The rudimentary things that we attempt to carry out every day seems to be thwarted from every single direction. We have very little...
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Fake It Til You Make It
I am a 42 year old man that is still a virgin. Not only have I never had sex I have yet to kiss go on a date or even be remotely intimate with a woman. My question(s) is this; how can I possibly hope to catch up with the pack now? How can I learn things that I should have learned 30 years ago? And even if I did somehow get up the nerve to go on a date how do I answer the questions of my past love...
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Just Say No!
I am a single 23 year old girl. I am single due to the fact that I have been in and out of the hospital for the last 5-6 years. Also,until recently I was living in an area that you could pretty much say was abandoned because there was no one to meet and nothing to do, more or less. On top of it I have a difficult time breaking the ice with people, let alone boys, so it has been hard to meet...
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Couch Potato Consequences
Hello Mary Jane. I’m a new fan to your advice column, but I love it! I think I’m in need of your “blunt” advice. Can you help me out?
My son’s 18-year-old girlfriend came to live with us a couple years ago. She had graduated high school, and her mom lived in another state. She and my son both had several false starts at community college together, and worked at a...
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Stalkers Never Prosper
I really liked this person and that person told me that he liked me too. The next week another girl said that she got a love note from him. So I started to ignore him. He got really angry and told all of his friends that I was ignoring him. The same girl beat me up because I tried to talk to him about it. When we met again he really wanted to talk to me and he wanted to know why I was so mad at...
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Divorcee Status
I have been seeing this guy for the past 8 or so months. My feelings for him have become stronger. I can tell his have too. The thing is he doesn’t tell me his feelings for me but only lets out little hints here and there. He has been married before, and he makes negative remarks about being in love or getting married. He says he will tell me he loves me when he is ready. But every...
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Stay Away From Boys!
I’m in love with my two best friends. Boy A is sweet, charming, and funny. Boy B, is just, awesome, he’s funny and so easy to talk to. However, on the flip side, Boy A tends to cheat on girls, and Boy B likes to lie to me. I’ve loved Boy B since the very day I met him,and I get butterflies from him like you would not believe (so badly I once couldn’t speak). So it makes me...