Just Say No!
I am a single 23 year old girl. I am single due to the fact that I have been in and out of the hospital for the last 5-6 years. Also,until recently I was living in an area that you could pretty much say was abandoned because there was no one to meet and nothing to do, more or less. On top of it I have a difficult time breaking the ice with people, let alone boys, so it has been hard to meet anybody. And the times that I have the majority of them have either been players and/or took advantage of me. Ok, my question: I would NEVER have a sexual relationship with anyone under the age of 18 because I am not some perverted sick. However, there is this boy who recently came into my life, who is only fourteen years old (and profoundly mature for his age) and I sort of have a crush on him. He makes me smile/laugh all the time (a lot of laughs I missed out on while in the hospital); He is always checking up on me to make sure that I am feeling okay whenever I am sad or depressed; I am exceedingly insecure about my body and he told me that first of all I am a very pretty girl and have both a beautiful smile and pretty eyes and that secondly, I am so beautiful inside that it doesn’t matter what I look like on the outside. Is it messed up to have a crush on someone so much younger?
Yes. He’s fourteen! All he really wants in life right now is to get laid. If you’re having trouble finding a man, then go somewhere where there are men. Going down to the middle school and finding a sweet boy who tries to make you laugh cause it makes your tits bounce, isn’t gonna cut it. Just because you got played and taken advantage of doesn’t mean that you can go take advantage of someone else - don’t be selfish. And what’s this hospital bullshit? This is serious. This is waaaay above this boy’s head. What you are doing is playing victim to your insecurities and about the way you were treated by men before. And this is why you can’t have a healthy relationship. You need to go to counseling, like asap. Don’t take your issues out on some naive fourteen year old boy and fuck his life up, too.
dearmjane@gmail.com
