Dear Mary Jane

My parents are okay at times. Especially my mom, but my dad is super strict and a pastor. So on Saturday, I told my parents I wanted to act and be an actress. My mom would let me do it but my dad said “No!!” He said he doesn’t want me to be an actress, but he said he will support any decision I make. But really he won’t. He just says that to make me feel better. And since my mom does what my dad says its impossible to change her mind.

This is a tough one. I always advocate listening to your parents because ultimately they always act out of fear. Fear of you messing up your life, fear of you not needing them anymore, fear of what could happen if they aren’t there to protect you, etc. And it all stems from love, you know. As your parents, they are responsible for everything you are and everything you become. And the last thing you parents want is for their dear daughter to end up as the next Heidi Montage - ugly, fucked up, wanna-be sex object of America. Once you understand where they’re coming from, you’ll be able to understand how to work your way around it. Instead of asking to be an actress and dreaming of the hills of Hollywood, it would appeal more to them if you asked to take theater classes and dream about Broadway. You get where I’m coming from? Make them think that you want to act because you love to express yourself not because you want to be like Megan Fox. If your parents know that where your head is at, they’ll be less inclined to act out of fear.

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