Use Your Words
i am getting so frustrated with my bf…..like, when i am feeling down or i don’t seem happy, he always asks me what’s wrong and won’t stop until i tell him. that’s really sweet of him and that’s one of his endearing qualities. but whenever he feels down or whatever and i ask him, he never tells me….instead, he walks around completely bummed and we both end up miserable for the rest of the day. all he ever tells me is that he’s fine, obviously lying because i can just tell by the look on his face. what am i supposed to do to get him to tell me? i always tell him that he can confide in me, yet he doesn’t…. everytime we start to talk about something of significance (anything personal, etc.), he gets all uncomfortable and has this really weird look on his face. plus, he seems to get slightly angry after we have these “deep” talks together. i have no idea what else to do without getting him mad at me or getting that weird, uncomfortable feeling between us. it’s really hard for us to communicate this way and it’s really bugging me….help!!!!
Boys have a much harder time than girls at expressing their feelings; they are programmed not to talk about it for fear of being sensitive and soft. That’s why we always wanna date MEN. They are mature and can handle a deep convo and don’t get easily awkward. But since you like boys, this is gonna be a little bit more of a challenge. First, you need to call him out on his immaturity, preferably when he is trying to get attention and sympathy by moping around. Put a stop to his pity parties immediately, even if that means walking away and leaving him to cry in the corner by himself. Let him know that if he can’t open up and communicate his feelings then he’s gonna need to communicate where the relationship will be heading. For example, straight into the ground - 6 feet deep, no turning around. I think (well, honestly, I hope because giving a man an emotional ultimatum is always unpredictable) that he’ll understand and be able to overcome his insecurities. But, by hanging around while he pretends he’s an infant and can’t tell you what’s wrong, you are giving him the okay to keep acting that way. Girl, once he realizes that he needs to use sentence structures to keep you around, he’ll start googling some big words. I know that!
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