Tell Me When To Go
My ex boyfriend and I are still friends after going out twice before. My friends tell me if our relationships didn’t work out the first two times, then why try again for a third time? I think I still love him, but I’m not sure. I love being around him and he is nice to talk to, but I’m pretty sure he doesn’t like me anymore. I don’t want to ruin our friendship by talking to him about it, because I treasure our friendship that we have. But I also don’t want to have this feeling of the past when I spend time with him. What should I do?
Your friends are right. Lemme give you a quick lesson on relationships. If at first it doesn’t succeed, it’s never going to succeed. This isn’t the movies, you can’t just get back together and live happily ever after. If you really treasure the friendship then you should back off. He said he doesn’t like you so all you’re doing if screwing yourself over. You need to cut yourself off and find someone else because you’re very close to becoming into a stage 5 clinger and that’s never sexy. I’m sorry to break it to you, baby, but it’s never going to go back to the way it was. Relationships don’t have undo and redo buttons, once they’re over you need to just take your good memories and move on. By hanging yourself up on this one guy, you are letting lots of other awesome potential boyfriends pass you by. And in the end, everything you’ve done for this “relationship” is going to bite you in the ass.
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