Dear Mary Jane

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months. Things were going well until a family member of mine died. I needed his support and what I got was him running away. He said that I needed more than he could give right now and that he was going through a lot of stuff as well and didn’t think he could handle “us” right now. He decided that he didn’t want a relationship, but has since been calling and wanting to hang out with me. What do I do? I am still in love with him and it hurts.

He just wants a sexually charged relationship without having to deal with the emotions. If he thinks it’s okay to leave you in a tough time instead of provide support and sympathy then he’s not worthy of you. And that’s the truth, baby. Don’t let this guy hurt you more, stand up for yourself. He shouldn’t be able to dump you in your time of need, but still be able to hook up with you - that’s a big fat negatory! Once he realizes that his two choices are lose you forever or man up and provide grievance support; he’ll face fears and come crawling back. Don’t lose sight of your values, ladies - if a man can’t handle you at your worst, he’s only taking advantage of your best (and keeping that beauty from a man who really cares)!

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